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I'm sorry, I didn't mean to come across so harshly! Of course people care about your wedding , I never implied otherwise but nobody cares more about it than you. I simply meant that life goes on after you get engaged and that life includes other people getting engaged and pregnant etc...

I don't know you or anything about your life but if my sister got engaged 5 weeks after me, I'd be so excited for her and delighted that I'd have someone to talk about wedding stuff with, without driving them mad!!!

From the sounds of things, you're never going to get the love and attention from your family that you obviously want. Seeing as this is the case, you should look to your fh and his family and your friends for what you need. Just cos those people aren't blood, doesn't mean they'll be less of a family to you.

As for babis at your wedding, that is your choice, and I completely understand your view. Sure, before I got pregnant, we were taking my brother's wedding next June into consideration, ie if I didn't conceive by September this year, we'd put it on hold till the new year so as I wouldn't be nearly 9 months by the wedding. Then, when I did get pregnant, I thought "Lovely, baby will be at least 4 months by then, old enough to leave with dh's folks for the night by then!".

BUT, it is your sister's child and her decision. Suggest to her that perhaps her fiance be primary care-giver on your wedding day, and that he sit at the back of the church, ready to remove himself and the baby if he/she gets unsettled during the ceremony.

It's ok Marla.
I've learned my lesson about posting here. I really didn't look at it as being so selfish. I have big issues with my sister. If we got on better I would be delighted for her. I just wanted to let off steam cause I spent last Sat night in tears and wanting to call off wedding becuase of her. Until my Fiance convinced me that it's about us and our day. Let other people worry about their own problems etc...

Thanks Grumpy,

I do feel closer to my Fiance's family than mine. Only problem is they all live in South Africa !!! But he is the most important thing to me, and being married to him is more important than a stupid wedding.

I won't stop my sister bringing her baby at all. The fight started because I suggested she bring a babysitter. I would not forbid her from bringing the child. I think people misunderstood me there. I only suggested a b-sitter for the hotel to her...

Thanks for your opinion maryc.

I said call off the wedding, not the marriage. Just to clarify. But thanks anyway!

Thank you Bride,

I know I might be over-reacting and you're right, I should let her enjoy her life and I can enjoy my life.

I didn't really expect that much attention. I guess I just wanted it to last a little longer. But I understand that it's only a big thing in my life and other people have their own worries. I can't expect people to be as excited as I am. I guess that's the 5 year old child with the net curtains on her head talking !!!!

Thanks for trying to understand and not shouting at me !!!

Your comments might have been a bit bridezilla like Alison but I think I know where you're coming from. Like you say, your problem with your sister obviously goes a lot deeper then the last few months, so maybe that's causing you to overreact to the circumstances.
Just keep in mind that it will be your day, regardless to her being pregnant or engaged, and you'll have a fabulous time.
If your sister brings you down then maybe you should keep a bit of distance there for the moment.
Hope it works out

Thanks Snove. Didn't realise I was turning into Bridezilla !! And you're right. It is my day, regardless of what my sister does. I will calm down eventually. Planning weddings is just so stressful and brings out the worst in people sometimes...

Understood. Thanks for the reply. I was just angry at some of the comments. I have realised that nobody cares about my wedding, except me and H2B. And that's ok.

Never expected the world to stop turning. Just didn't want the event to be overshadowed by someone else in my family. But it's done now, so I'll get over it.