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God Buffygirl your poor h2b sounds like he had a terrible childhood. His mother should be ashamed of herself.

I agree with amck though, keep him talking to the other members of family as she is trying to isolate him and she should be stopped from doing so.

The brother you were saying he is still on speaking terms with, is there any way he could help with the situation? Help remind the rest of them that there are two sides to every story. I would say that the reason his mother is so defensive about this is probably because she knows your h2b is right and they always say the truth can hurt.

Even if you want to hang her by her ears from the nearest tree I would try to keep things civil and encourage h2b to try to reconcile with her as this will make him look like the bigger person in the long run and no matter how bad they are, if he is that upset he really must not want to loose contact with them.

I am so sorry for you and h2b, my heart really goes out to you.

My H2B has the same thing, an ungrateful bunch of users for a family. His mother too, had favourites, I would have told her where to go, feck it with family like that, you'd be better off on your own. My H2B never has the ball$ to tell them, and so it stays bottled up, better for your H2B to get it out and let them know how he feels. Why should be worry about ripping his family apart, by saying what he did? keeping it in would have ripped him apart. Tell him that he did the right thing.

I know he did the right think gk and so does he but it doesn't stop him hurting.

As I suspected, when he rang his brother to wish him a happy birthday and said that he wasn't going to go to his parents house, his brother went mad, saying that he was the worst in the world and that he shouldn't stay away etc.

H2b was really upset. He's come to the conclusion now that he doesn't have a family and that he's just going to stay away altogether. He was sooo upset last night. He said that he thinks that he's a bad person now and that all he seems to do is hurt others.

I'm really at my wits end. I cooked him a special dinner and really took care of him last night and he was genuinely grateful for it but still didn't seem happy.

I've never seen him so down in himself and I'm really really worried about him.

Buffygirl, I don't mean to be insensitive or presume anything but it sounds to me that your H2B has some very deep rooted issues, and I think that having a guilty complex for saying something that is true and eating him alive is cause for concern. TBH perhaps he needs some councilling to sort this out in his own mind, before he tries to sort it out with his family. I think it's worth considering, and believe me (I talk from experiece) something like this can turn your whole lives upside down. Take care.

I think he definitely needs counselling. He can't work through this sort of thing by himself.