Fallen out of love with your wedding dress? Or trying to keep the kids quiet during the speeches? We answers your wedding dilemmas, big or small.
Hi WOL.
My sister is getting married in a few months and has asked me to be her bridesmaid! I am absolutely delighted as, after just getting married myself, I have a lot of fresh experience. The trouble is, I have a baby and am limited in the amount of help I can give her. I have a lot of computer time however so I have looked up shoes and invitations so far but would love advice on what I could do to make it special for her! Any ideas for me?
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Hi!
First of all can I just say how lucky your sister is to have a bridesmaid like you! Secondly I would say, although you have the best intentions, check that your sister is comfortable with the amount of advice/help you offer -make sure you’re not suffocating her! It sounds like you two have a great relationship and I’m sure she is understanding when it comes to the amount of travel/work you can do for the wedding with a little baby on your hands. Think back to your wedding to what you would have liked to have had a hand with on the day -maybe it’s giving out little playbooks for the kids or arranging family photos. Other little things you could do is make sure the wedding car is well stocked with water and snacks in case she gets peckish, or request a song from the band/DJ that takes you back to when you and your sister were kids and have an old school dance with her, or maybe arrange to have champagne, rose petals and music in the bridal suite for when they decide to retire? Above all, be there for her, for most brides in the run up to their wedding having someone on the end of a phone who can listen to their problems, get excited with them, or take their mind off everything is just as important as helping them write their invites.
The WOL Girls x
Hello,
I have a major problem, I am a month away from my wedding day and I don’t know if I like my dress anymore! My dress was heavily dependent on budget, as my mum was buying it for me. I did like it when I first tried it on of course, but I didn’t get that ‘wow’ factor. I think I was influenced by my bridesmaids and mum who all loved it. I’m not sure now, am I second guessing myself? Should I have held out to find the perfect dress? Please settle my mind, I feel like I’m going crazy!
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Hi,
Don’t panic. The majority of brides have a moment in between trying their dress on for the first time and the night before the wedding day when they second guess their choice. Often this has to do with your state of mind at the time. When you are stressed or tired most a lot of women feel like no matter what dress or outfit they have, they will look terrible. On a more general level it’s the age old case of ‘I have nothing to wear’. Try to put it to the back of your mind to concentrate on other wedding-related projects. To try to change your frame of mind, treat yourself to a pampering night, have a bath, wear a hair and face mask, light a few candle and play some relaxing music. Try to eat more healthy foods -fruits, nuts, vegetables and pulses and head out for a walk every night to get the blood pumping and your serotonin levels up. If that fails, do yourself up to the nines, spray some perfume, and try your dress on, and remember that on the day you’re going to look 100 times better than you do at that moment, and that no matter what you wear it will be the best day of your life.
The WOL Girls x
B,
I don’t know what to do about ‘plus ones’. I have read that wedding etiquette is that it’s rude not to put a plus one on your guests invite, is this still true? Our budget is strict and we really just want to invite people we know well but we don’t want to cause any hassle or bad feelings for our single guests. Most of all I’m worried his cousins will end up just bringing a friend for a laugh or someone completely random who I don’t know. What should we do?
Dx
Hi,
This is a tricky one for most couples. It really depends on your budget as to whether you can afford to have a plus one on your invitations. Etiquette has changed so much over the years (in particular in the last two years, for obvious reasons) so there are no hard and fast rules as to whether something is right or wrong. Generally it is seen as the fair thing to do to allow guests who don’t know anybody at the wedding to bring a friend with them. In your case these cousins should really be able to make their own fun, the same applies for work colleagues. Do what you think is right for your situation, people should be sensitive enough at the moment to understand your decision and if they aren’t, forget about them!
The WOL Girls x
Hi,
My problem is that I am having about 10 kids at my wedding and don’t know what to do to keep them entertained! Our budget is smashed so I need some ideas that won’t cost too much. I was thinking of doing up some fun packs for them but as there will be sever boys under the age of 10 it’s bound to get a bit boisterous! Is there anything I can add to their fun packs/gift bags that might keep them entertained? Also, how do I keep them entertained during meal time?
x
Hi!
The goodie bag idea is a very popular one for keeping kids entertained! Take a trip to the €2 shop and pick up little bits and pieces like toy cars, books and games for them to play with. Another idea is to have disposable cameras at the table for the kids with a list of things to take photos of (if your bridesmaid gives a hand with this they can all get prizes at the end). Also, check with your wedding co-ordinator as to whether it would be feasible to have a little room set up with a DVD player and some drinks where they can relax and watch a movie. If you can allocate a budget, KIDZ CLUB is a great idea as they are qualified and experienced childcarers and can provide childminders or babysitters late into the night. They run activities such as musical chairs, arts and crafts and story time with the kids during the day.
The WOL Girls x
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