Having problems with a broken hearted friend or can't seem to find the right dress for your expectant bridesmaid? WOL answers your wedding dilemmas, big or small. Jealous mom, single friend, friend doesn't get along with husband, bridesmaid pregnant
Dear WOL,
I am trying to be more honest with my Mother. Sometimes she says things that really upset me and instead of keeping quiet, I try to tell her how I feel. One of her major issues is me spending time with my new in-laws. When I visit them she gets annoyed and makes nasty comments.
I decided to tell her calmly that I didn’t like her remarks, but she said that I was over-analysing the situation, started crying and hung up. I feel like she is the only one who gets to express how she feels. I know she'll get over it but we have a complicated relationship and I’m really down about it. What do you think WOL?
Wollie x
Dear Wollie,
First thing is first, you are doing the right thing by being honest. It sounds as if your Mother is lonely and wants to spend more time with you, but feels that she cannot say this to you. Arrange a day out together, maybe shopping, dinner, and theatre. Try and make these days out a frequent occurrence.
You should also try and organise a dinner or gathering at your home for both your family and your in-laws. This will help make your mother feel more included in your life. Also, as she gets to know your in-laws better, she will feel less threatened by them and begin to understand why you spend time with them.
The WOL Girls x
Dear WOL,
I need some advice on how to help a friend or at least how to stay sane in her company. Her marriage broke up about a year ago. Since then she has gone a bit crazy. On the first night of my hen, she cried in the night club because of couples kissing, so I left my own party and brought her back to the hotel. On the second night she told one of my best friends that my marriage was never going to last. She also acted totally crazy at my wedding and tried to get with loads of men, not caring whether they were single or not. I know she never liked my husband, but she continues to make negative comments about him even though we are now married. What should I do?
Sarah
Dear Sarah,
I know you are being very patient with her by supporting her and being her shoulder to cry on, but you also need to make it clear that she cannot speak badly about your husband. It is clear that she is jealous of your loving marriage and feels by speaking negatively about it, it will somehow make her feel better.
This girl clearly needs some professional help. Offer to go see a councillor with her if she feels she cannot go alone. Helping her to speak about her problems will help her to overcome them.
The WOL Girls x
Dear WOL,
I saw your blog about pregnant bridesmaids and I was wondering can you get the mint green Dessy dress in any other colour? One of my bridesmaids will be seven months pregnant on the day of our wedding and I need it in yellow.
Fiona x
Dear Fiona,
Aw, that dress is so pretty and will be really comfortable for your expectant bridesmaid. Better still, yes, that dress is available in a variety of different colours. Have a look at our Suppliers Directory to find your nearest Dessy supplier.
The WOL Girls x
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