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No bridal dilemma is ever too big or too small for the WOL Girls! This week we answer a Wollie who despises her engagement ring, we seek help for the newly engaged lady who, in spite of her pushy future mother-in-law, does not want an engagement party and we advise the almost married couple who cannot decide on a wedding photographer!

Dear WOL,

I just got engaged to Mr Perfect. Everything was wonderful and the engagement was magical. The only thing is, I hate my engagement ring. I still cannot believe he decided to pick it out by himself. At first I thought the clump of green and blue stones was a dummy ring and was jumping around in excitement screaming, “yes, yes, yes!” But when I found out it was the real deal you can imagine my distress. I don’t want to hurt his feelings, but I know I won’t be happy looking down at this for the rest of my life! What should I do?

Wollie x

Dear Wollie,

Oh dear, what a predicament! We suggest “losing” your ring so you’ll have to pick a new, fabulous one! Ok, we joke, we joke!

Just be honest with your H2B. He sounds like a great guy going to pick out the ring himself, but tell him this is something you had dreamed of doing together as couple. Ask him would he mind if you exchanged the ring for something more suitable.

If this doesn’t work, explain to him that his wedding ring (which he will have to wear forever and ever. Amen) will have to match your engagement ring and will also feature a clump of green and blue stones. That will get him back to the jewellers in no time! Good luck!

WOL Girls x

 

Dear WOL,

My OH and I just got engaged after six amazing years together and our families could not be happier for us! The only problem is, my OH’s mother (my future MIL) wants to throw us a huge party. She just loves to party, there have been times when I had to ask her to stop dancing on tables! My family are the total opposites of party animals and they could not imagine anything worse! My OH and I are not too keen on the idea either but he won’t say anything, leaving me to do all the dirty work. Please help!

Wollie

Dear Wollie,

It sounds like your future MIL is thrilled that you’re joining her family and wants to throw you an initiation party but we can also see your predicament that this really isn’t your style. Suggest having a family dinner instead where both sets ofparents can meet,it is best that they get together before your wedding day anyway.

Having a relaxing meal together means that everyone wins - your future MIL gets to have a party of sorts and your family enjoys a quiet night out. We hope that your future MIL waits until at least after dessert to get her Beyonc� on on the dinner table!

WOL Girls x

 

Dear WOL,

We have nearly everything sorted for our wedding, dress, shoes reception, flowers, but we cannot decide on a photographer, mainly because there are so many to choose from. Can you give us some advice on how to narrow down the search?

Kate

Dear Kate,

Start by asking around. Ask your friends and ask other couples on forums like WeddingsOnline about who they would most recommend.

Make a shortlist of the photographers that you like and visit their website and blog for examples of their work. It is very important to do this as you will see instantly if a photographer's work appeals to you.

Call each photographer on your list so you can check if they are available on your wedding day, their type of photography specialties and a rough estimate of packages and price.

Meet with the photographers who you most liked the sound of. You should bring along the OH to this meeting because both of you will need to like and feel comfortable with the photographer as they will play a very important part of your wedding day.

At this stage you should have an inkling or feeling about who you will choose, keeping in mind their portfolio, price, availability and personality!

We really recommend choosing a professional photographer, rather than asking a friend to give you a hand on the day. Professionals not only know the best angles and styles of photography, they also have a lot of aftercare work to do on images and are worth every penny.

Have a look at these professional wedding photographers on WeddingsOnline.ie.

WOL Girls x

 

Main Image by Jose Villa.

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