WeddingsOnline Discussion Forums

Welcome to the WeddingsOnline discussion board. We do operate some Forum Rules, please click here to read through them. Also please refer to our FAQ if you have queries on how to use the boards.

OH has changed his mind about kids - Please help

Post a reply

Re: OH has changed his mind about kids - Please help

Postby sarahstrikes » Mon Apr 09, 2022 2:44 pm

I am quite direct and honest so please don't take this up the wrong way it just may be a different angle to look at things for you. I realise why you are upset as your hubby has broken a contract that you and he made before entering into your marriage. But unfortunately ye did get married for better or worse and this just happens to be the worse. If (god forbid) our hubby got into an accident and you had to look after him full time, you would stay with him and give up your current lifestyle to look after him as you did marry him for better or worse. I am only painting another for worse 'senario' for you.
My point is that things change in life and relationships and we have to deal with them as partners and not one against the other. I am not saying you should go off and have a baby just because he wants it but you really should talk to him about it before things get any worse. Just go in with the attitude that at the end of the day your marriage is the most important thing and if ye are both prepared to hear each other out and be reasonable, you should be able to work it out.
Please don't Judge me on the fact that I have 2 kids as I completely respect peoples decisions not to have children and this is not why I have given the above advice.
I really hope you and your hubby are able to talk things out and I really don't envy your situation. hth xx
Image
Image
[/url]
Image
[/url]
sarahstrikes
Mini Wolly
 
Posts: 174
Joined: Thu Apr 07, 2022 1:01 pm
Top

Re: OH has changed his mind about kids - Please help

Postby keepitsimple » Wed Apr 11, 2022 11:06 am

OP, I really don't think I can say anything to help but I am also one of those 'strange women' who don't want kids (and I say strange as in what alot of people think NOT me!!) DH said he was 100% the same and we even discussed this on our first date as it was a definate deal breaker for me if the guy wanted kids! However we are 4 years married and every so often DH says he would like a kid or starts to question why I don't want one making me feel like there is something wrong with me cos I'm a woman who doesn't want to have a child, as you said it is bad enough the neighbours say it but when DH starts it hurts alot more! We usually end up argueing briefly and DH says that in reality he doesn't want kids either but just every now and again he gets broody - it may be after watching some soppy dad with his cute perfect daughter on tv or something!!!! Anyway I was just wondering if your OH is 100% serious that he has changed his mind or is it just a passing thought like my husband gets. DH also says it worries him that he will be alone when he is old but also realises that this alone is not a good enough reason to have a child of our own!!
keepitsimple
Major Wolly
 
Posts: 747
Joined: Tue Jan 02, 2022 4:45 pm
Top
Previous
Post a reply

Return to Relationships

Who is online

Users browsing this forum: No registered users and 14 guests

Powered by phpBB © 2000, 2002, 2005, 2007 phpBB Group

Close up magic and mind reading extraordinary demonstrations your guests will experience up close when you hire magician & illusionist Shane Black

Ideal gift: make a photobook, card or calendar with your photos.

Knightline are a six piece fully live wedding band which includes professional experienced musicians and four talented lead vocalists.

We work one-to-one with each bride-to-be, taking the stress out of the process

We strive for excellence in our service to our customers to ensure quality and reliability of audio & video productions at an affordable cost.

A day of thrills and surprises for you and your guests from Blithn O'Reilly Murphy, The Wedding Expert

Barnardos Bridal offers exclusive BRAND NEW, designer gowns and stunning accessories at incredibly reduced prices.

Romantic couples seeking a breathtakingly beautiful private wedding with a sense of the eclectic need look no further than the fairytale setting of Castle Leslie Estat

Contemporary modern style and urban location, provides the ultimate in luxury for those whose heart belongs to the city

Amazing ceremony locations and venues in the Algarve. Tell us your dreams and we take it from there.

The Vtter Family and their team will help you plan an unforgettable wedding day in the beautiful Austrian region of Zell am See - Kaprun

Making your Day Special. Unrivalled food, stunning location, many photo opportunities

Your personal wedding coordinator who will walk you through this exclusive family run hotel so you can experience the warmth and luxury of this unique and special wedding location.

Sharon Peaker Flowers has been designing and creating beautiful wedding flowers for over 20years.

Frankly Bubl will cover from your Drinks Reception right through to your Evening with an arrangement of various packages to suit all budgets.

WEDDINGS ABROAD SPECIALISTS CONTACT US FOR INFORMATION ABOUT WEDDINGS IN MALTA, ITALY, SPAIN, ZAKYNTHOS, NEW YORK, LAS VEGAS AND MANY MORE DESTINATIONS.

Irelands most exquisite, unique, handcrafted wedding stationery at affordable prices.

Dublin's premier boutique hotel, a refreshing alternative to the pomp & ceremony of a traditional wedding venue.

Pat and Claire have 15 years experience in photographing weddings. Portmarnock based.

Dorothy Creaven, Makeup Ireland is a freelance wedding makeup artist who travels throughout Ireland to bride's homes. Also known for her work as a makeup artist for TV, film, photoshoots & catwalk.

Enjoy's excellent reputation for providing quality silk fabrics to both wholesale and retail clients.

Professional Photographer. Accessible Price. www.annmcnamee.ie

Is a family run Irish owned professional photography business established in 1977. Wedding and portrait photographers. Memebers of IPPA and BIPP

www.diywedding.ie is Ireland's first online store for making your own, unique handmade wedding invitations using our easy to use kits!

Entertaining the guests and keeping the dance floor full.

Siam Silk Flower Company is an Irish business specialising in handmade Orchids and Blooms. We have searched the world to bring the finest quality handmade flowers to you at a price that everyone can afford.

1940's vocal trio, gorgeous harmonies, retro hairstyles and the icing on the cake at your wedding reception.

Experienced wedding DJ offering a variety of packages

For something a little bit different! Jewellery and hair accessories, inspired by nature- to be worn by you.

At finefocus I offer stunning and elegant professional wedding & portrait photography at affordable prices.