Log in or sign up. It's FREE!
![]()
CheatingLike this topic?
34 posts
• Page 1 of 3 • 1, 2, 3
Re: Cheating
Been there, done that! Dumped him and cancelled the wedding - lost a heap of money but kept my sanity and self respect. Get rid of him!
Re: Cheating
Sorry to hear your situation
![]() Lose you deposits rather than anymore time on this dope. Get out now Re: Cheating
Aw you poor thing. Really sorry to hear this. You must be in bits.
I'm afraid I have to agree with the other posters. If this is the second time and he promised not to ever do it again etc, you have to face facts and see you do you want this to deal with this kind of behaviour for the rest of your life. I wouldn;t worry about deposits or payments of any sort at this time. You need to think about yourself and what is best for you. Think of it in terms of - what would I do if I was not even engaged to this person, and if the question of deposits paid etc did not even come into it. I wish you all the best. Have you confided in a close friend or family member about whats going on?? You may think that you would prefer to keep it all private, but believe me you need support right now. All the best ![]() TTC #1, Cycle 11 (Cycle 4 since using CBFM)
1st appoint with Fertility Clinic in June 2012
Re: Cheating
You must be in bits. Sorry to hear you have to go through this again with the same man. I think that should tell you all you need to know and Nov is far enough away to walk away without too much financial loss or embarrasment. The truth is that he cheats. Some people cheat once and don't again but the problem with cheating is that you get a taste for it and it dulls your sense of how wrong it is when you do it even once. This makes it easier to do again. He has done it again even after seeing what it did to you the last time. If you can be strong about this the best thing for you (objectively) is to walk away, you would be doing yourself a very big favour. If not, then you need to accept that this will happen again. Some women can put up with this. You need to decide if you are one of them.
[url=http://www.TickerFactory.com/]
![]() [/url]
Re: Cheating
To be honest, i dont care about the money,
I love him Plus everybodys so excited about the wedding, I havent aaid anything to anybody They know he did it the first time Can only imagine what they would do if They found out
Re: Cheating
![]() ![]() [url=http://www.TickerFactory.com/]
![]() [/url]
Re: Cheating
a little quote: cheat on me once shame on you,cheat on me twice,shame on me,otherwords,,,PLEASE dont be a doormat,yes you love him and you were looking forward to having your big day but unless you can look into his eyes that day knowing what hes done twice and be happy,,,dont go through with it,I wish you luck though,hard choice,I just wouldnt stay,rather be heartbroken for a year without him than for the rest of my life with him,xxxxxx
Re: Cheating
Alli1, so sorry to hear what your going through. You must be heart broken by what he has done to you especially after promising preivously it wouldn't happen again.
I just wanted to share a story with you about a girl I know of, who was in a similar position to yourself. She found that out her partner had cheated on her a number of times while they were engaged. He swore blind that he loved her and it would never ever happen again so they went ahead with the wedding. In fact they went all out with the wedding he told her to book anything & everything she wanted, wedding cost an absolute fortune (it was obviously his way of trying to keep her happy). Roll on 4 months after the wedding she comes home early from work to find him in their bed with another girl. It turns out they were only home one week from hooneymoon and he started an affair with some girl. They hadn't even been married 1 month when it started. She was heart broken but again forgave him when he promised her the sun moon & stars so she again forgave him & got on with married life. Then 2 months later she finds messages on his phone to the same girl she caught him with. She kicked him out and went on to divorce him. I remember meeting her about a year after all this happend and she said to me the worst decision she made was to go ahead with the wedding because not only did it put her in debt but it meant that her life was tied to him until the divorce came through. If she hadn't of married him it would have been so much easier to deal with what happened and get over him!! No matter what you choose to do make sure you take the time to be fully sure its the right decision to take. Wish you luck ![]() Re: Cheating
After reading i had to post, so sory to hear about this but its only depoists your self respect is worth so much more, i too had a friend is the same boat she went ahead with her wedding because she didnt want to let people down little did they know he marriage lasted 6 months because he cheated again after the wedding, my advice get out now while you can xxxx hugs
[url=http://www.TickerFactory.com/]
![]() [/url] [url=http://www.TickerFactory.com/] ![]() [/url] Re: Cheating
Alli1, if you love him and feel you can't let him go, DON'T, try and save your relationship, but at least be real about the whole situation he cheated again and again and being very blunt they are only the stories you've found out about. Postpone the wedding at least you may be super ready but your OH definitely isn't. Re ''everybodys so excited about the wedding'' tell them the truth of what you have found out and ask them how much they want to share in you fairy tale day. Maybe what you need is to see people reactions, to realise the horror of what he has done, if you were my sister I would be so gutted for you, I'd be heartborken that he had betrayed your trust, again. P.S. Don't kid yourself you are the only one that knows about this, normally the person who is being cheated on is the last to know! Last edited by Mrs2babridesoon on Tue May 01, 2022 11:40 am, edited 1 time in total.
TTC Since Nov 2009. Me 36. PCOS & Large Fibroid 8cm & Endometriosis. Clomid 50mg X 6 Cycles, Clomid 100mg/Scans/Trigger Shots X 2 Cycle. BFN X 8. HSG January 2011 (one tube blocked) Lap & Dye Dec 2011.Both tubes open/ovarian drilling/slight Endo removed/Lge Fibroid Feb-May ’12:IUI 4 Attempts all cancelled (poor response) Cycle changed TSI. BFN X 4 All treatment suspended till Endo sorted! May 2012. 21st July:Surgery with Hugh O'Connor for Fibroid & Endo Removal. Fingers crossed for 2012. Re: Cheating
it's a sugar situation to be in, but do you want to spend the rest of your life wondering if he's been secreative, why he's late home from work etc.
Thats just not fair on you, you deserve a marriage where you both feel secure.
Re: Cheating
It's really up to you but if it were me I would get out now.
I know a girl who was the other woman, the guy left his wife for her and then went on to marry her. Roll on not long after they are married and the guy is caught again. Moral in my eyes is a leopard really doesn't change it's spots. Some guys just can't help themselves. ![]() ![]() _____________________________________________________________________ Previously fmh62 Re: Cheating
Think about this down the line after your married. If you have children dont know if you already have but then it will be way worse get out now. You derserve better.
34 posts
• Page 1 of 3 • 1, 2, 3
Who is onlineUsers browsing this forum: No registered users and 12 guests |
![]() Hotspot EventsWe take great pride in all our events and no job is too big or small. Luttrellstown CastleThe last word in luxury living providing a truly romantic setting for weddings and celebrations. Wise GuysNeed a Great Live Band with a Difference to Entertain your Guests? You wont be disappointed! DMN ProductionsDMN Productions are a video company comprised of current lm and television professionals. A video is an unequalled way to relive the magic and excitement of the wedding day. Michelle Prunty PhotographyBeautiful Reportage Wedding Photography from ONLY 895. Your wedding captured in a creative and unobtrusive way with Michelle Prunty Photography. Photo and Video BoothOffering both photo and video message options. Prices starting from 500 Wedding VoiceAs a church wedding singer, Laura's versatile singing style extends from well-loved classical favourites to contemporary songs. Sharon Peaker Flowers ltdSharon Peaker Flowers has been designing and creating beautiful wedding flowers for over 20years. Eric Ronan PhotographyEric's unique competitive advantage is that with most of his album packages you will receive a CD of your images in high resolution and no watermark. PictureBooth.ieBecause a picture tells a thousand words. Lakeside HotelIrelands Best kept secret, situated in a stunning location on the banks of the river Shannon proudly overlooking the twin towns of Ballina and Killaloe Co. Clare. Thanda Private Game ResortA wedding celebrated at Thanda is a uniquely African experience: it is idyllic, intimate and truly romantic. E-JewelsE-jewels Ireland is a Irish family-owned jewellery company that provides diamond & precious stones jewellery from Antwerp in Ireland. The Powder Room GirlsTake the stress and hassle out of your wedding and let The Powder Room Girls organise your whole, hair, makeup and beauty package. We have a select team of professional freelance hair stylists, makeup artists and beauty therapists who are trained, experienced and specialise in weddings. Catrina ScullionGiven my experience I can adapt to singing in a number of different styles and having worked with string quartets, pianists, guitarists and harpists Truly Bridal BoutiqueWe finding the Perfect Wedding Dress should be an exciting & luxurious experience. With experienced help at hand & your own private Dressing Room we aim to make your visit a memorable occassion leading up to your Wedding day. Kildare based Anne-Marie O'Farrell - Church Harpist & SingerAnne-Marie is highly experienced in performance at church ceremonies, receptions and civil ceremonies. Georgina Mackessy Make upGeorgina has built a reputation as one of Munsters/Irelands leading Make-up Artists for Wedding, TV and Editorial Make-up partyphotos.ieYou have seen the X-Factor white high-key backdrop, and you have seen photo booths. We now offer a combination of the two. Whites of WexfordWhites of Wexfordcontemporary elegance in a unique setting. Fionnuala Monks Harpist and SingerFionnuala is an Internationally Renowned harpist and Singer whose previous clients include Presidents Mary McAleese and Bill Clinton. McDonough ProductionsFull time wedding videographer and he will personally handle your production from start to finish Tulfarris Hotel & Golf ResortWhether it's a small intimate affair of 20-40 people, or a larger party for 250, Tulfarris is a perfect choice for your dream wedding day. Wedding Band DublinThe Ultimate 90s Experience playing all the Guilty Pleasures and Dancefloor Classics from the most eclectic musical decade of all time! Simon CaseyMake your wedding day music special with Irelands multi platinum selling artist Simon Casey. The Maritime Hotels & SuitesElegant decor, excellent service, breathtaking views make The Maritime Hotel West Cork's foremost wedding venue. Knight VisionProfessional Wedding Videography service based n Westmeath available nationwide Star DJ'sIreland's Largest DJ Agency, providing professional DJs for any event. . Studio 33 WeddingsFor artistic and unique photographs of your wedding, contact Fionn at Studio 33 Weddings Newgrange HotelUndivided attention on your Wedding Day, hosting only one wedding a day. |
![]() |