Is having a baby really sore?

by **Fleur** » Mon Jul 18, 2022 3:57 pm

Sorry girls can someone please explain this site to me and why all Annemarie's posts have turned into questions marks inside a yellow circle????? (oops sorry about the bad punctuation Mrs. Moo) :wink:

by **..........** » Mon Jul 18, 2022 4:04 pm

If I bother you that much I am gone.
This was the best site that I ever entered and because I was getting married I thought it would be a great place to feel excited. I am sorry that I littered your forums.

I asked a question that I knew nothing about (i never meant to offend anyone). I wanted to find out about childbirth and instead I got harrassed and deeply embarrased. :oops:

I am sorry I am so immature but I believe that asking questions helps and that's all I was doing, just asking.

:cry:

by **bridette** » Mon Jul 18, 2022 4:05 pm

I guess Annemarie edited her posts because she was made to feel stupid about them..... you'd never know we lived in a free country :roll:

by **sue06** » Mon Jul 18, 2022 4:07 pm

MMMMMMeeeeeeeeeeeooooooooooooooooowwwwwwwwwwwwww

Gosh girls take ye're claws out

I agree with some of what has been said but there's no need for the smart comments and criticising her - i think that's a little immature.

If you don't like her posts then just don't read them.

by **swissgirl** » Mon Jul 18, 2022 4:07 pm

Hi Annemarie,

Dont be dismayed with our critism. There is nothing wrong with being excited. I know you are new to this engaged stuff and you are young. Is this the first board youve ever posted to? There is a concept of posting etiquette (sorry spelling). This covers obvious stuff, not being rude to other posters (which you havent), not trolling, not using capitals (ie shouting), this can also cover over posting and punctuation sometimes too.

Youve a great two years ahead of you and youll find this board and others very helpful. Some of the replies Ive gotten so far have been great. Try to calm down and think before you post!

Good luck pet
sg.

by **Miss X** » Mon Jul 18, 2022 4:17 pm

I agree with Swissgirl you just need to calm down a little. Don't leave the board just because of a little critism, try to use it constructively. Think before you post something, everyone is busy between work and arranging their weddings along with a million other things, so to constantly ask questions that you could easily find the answers yourself from previous posts, can annoy people. Instead of turning things around to being about you listen/read other peoples situations and look at the advise that was given to them. Did you really need to start a thread about your cousin possibly wearing white to your wedding, when there was a discussion underway about someone who'd bought a white outfit to go to a WOL brides wedding. You could have replied the the existing one and told the bride you knew how she felt, you think you might have to deal with the same etc... Try not to look too far ahead and imagine problems that may never occur.

You will learn alot on this board, simply take this as your first lesson, read over your posts before you submit them, you might realise that you know the answer yourself, sometimes all I need to do is write it down.

by **bridette** » Mon Jul 18, 2022 4:21 pm

ah don't worry about the begrudgers annemarie.... the majority of people on here are less easily offended.... all you need is a thick skin!

by **MrsGNC** » Mon Jul 18, 2022 4:28 pm

oh god this has got a bit out of control
i don't think annemarie is a troll - just a little over excited...and very young..
annemarie just calm down a bit! as a previous poster said your wedding is two years away! You'll be suffering from burnout soon if you're not careful!

by **mrs cath** » Mon Jul 18, 2022 4:50 pm

I agree with the girls above! Use this site constructively. I've found the help and advice on this site invaluable.

If you have a question, look through previous posts, more often than not, you'll probably find the answer there. If you still can't find what you're looking for or can't find an answer to your query, then ask away.

But, you should try and pace yourself a little bit! :D

You're more then welcome on the message boards annemarie O-O

by **pd2005** » Mon Jul 18, 2022 6:12 pm

For God's sake if you dont like what the girl has to say/write just move on to another post.

P.S. My own experience of childbirth was nasty nasty nasty-but didnt get an epidural (punishment for my sins dont ya know) they're meant to be great.

by **BB2006** » Tue Jul 19, 2022 8:19 am

I really don't know why people get so annoyed by posts. If you don't want to answer a post or you think its silly, just ignore it. THere is no need to have a go at the person who wrote it. It is an open forum so therefore take the good with the bad.

I don't think its nice to tell someone to calm down either - who are we to say if someone can be excited or not.

Personally I thought the post was a little bit silly but I just ignored it - she is entitled to post anything she likes. There are plenyt of other extremely inane posts on the site but you are not forced to read any of them.

by **Glan** » Tue Jul 19, 2022 8:39 am

Have to second what katydmh says - Jesus calm down the rest of you posters. I'd say you have totally put annmariewatts off WOL which she seemed to be really enjoying. One other thing the search on the forum is not the best (but maybe thats jusy me). Come back annmariewatts & enjoy the experience.

Mama Dora · by **Mama Dora** » Tue Jul 19, 2022 8:49 am

Ah annemarie dont leave just because of bullies :twisted: .Unfortunately sometimes what we think is a normal question isnt to some people.
Dont mind that doing searches rubbish,if you have a question thats been asked 1000 times,ask again you always get different replies as new people come and go on here.

Dont be afraid.
x

by **Ettybertie** » Tue Jul 19, 2022 9:23 am

On orignal question I cant really comment as I havn't done it yet. However when I was 23 or so I did ask one friend who had had 3 and all her friends had had babies as well. Call it my curious phase. She said it can vary hugely. For her first she said she expected so much pain that it was really easy in the end and went with out an epidural or anything. She said it was a really short labour too. Then the second was the tough one. She said most of her friends were same, some had easy some tough, but all said twas worth it!

by **Bridget** » Tue Jul 19, 2022 9:41 am

Annemarie,

Some of the people here seem to have the patronising attitude that 'you are very young'. I bet the same people are only 25 or 26 themselves!! I am 32 and I am not shocked at your post.

I think it is a post anyone would ask, if they felt the couldn't ask members of their family/friends.

We asked a teacher this at secondary school and she said it is like very bad period pain. Also, as other posters said, the pain might be bad for one pregnancy, but might be light for another. There is a lot of pain relief available nowadays, and some people even have caesarians, where they are put under anaesthetic, operated on, and wake up to having the baby beside them.

I know you seem very excited about the wedding, but that is not for another 2 yrs. If you get excited, and plan too early, the good can be gone out of the wedding by the time the final few months come round. As you are building your house, I would concentrate more on that, making decisions about the layout, plugs etc, furnishings. The secret to keep the wedding 'fresh' and exciting would be to book the big things (hotel, church, photographers) and then forget about the wedding until 6 or 8 months in advance. I find that a lot of the wedding planning can't be done until a few months before the wedding, e.g. flowers, mass booklets, church music, cake etc. I am 9months away, and we have come to a standstill regarding the planning. We are just finding out about the honeymoon now. It is even too early to get the bridesmaid dress made(this is being done in Jan 06)

Hope this helps.

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