Support thread for sleep deprived with babies over 6 months

by **aurora** » Thu Jun 16, 2022 10:56 am

hi shiny2010, you poor thing having two bad sleepers! that's what scares me about trying for a second, am so thankful ds is healthy and such a smiley baby during the day but the broken sleep is difficult at times.
my fella has CMP allergy. they won't test him again till he's two next year cause he's in the high category. I still bf him morning and before bed and give him neocate at middy so he's used to the (yuck!) taste when I go back to work in august.

hope everyone else on this thread is well and managing to get some more zzz's.

by **shiny2010** » Thu Jun 16, 2022 11:42 am

well awake every hour last night ... eventually gave over the little guy to his daddy at 6am and I got 1 hour uninteruppted. bit dizzy today. temper might be a bit frayed later hmmmm, I think that the worst bit, short fuse. I can cope with everything else

:lvs

by **aurora** » Thu Jun 16, 2022 12:17 pm

God thats bad every hour. ds used to wake 5/6 times a night when he was younger but now just wakes 2/3 times these days. remember how wrecked I felt back then, started to become obsessed with sleep. he got better when I cut out the dairy and eggs from my diet. no stopping him waking the 2/3 times though - woke at 11.40,2.50 and then 6am for the day.

by **yada yada** » Thu Jun 16, 2022 1:41 pm

aurora wrote:DS still waking at night - tending towards just waking twice (a few nights just once) but staying up for long stretches every couple of nights rather than more frequent short stretches. he was awake for an hour and a half during the night last night.

he's had two ear infections in the past, his cousin may be getting grommits and my dad has always had ear problems so just curious about the glue ear.

Aurora - the consultant just has a look in his ear and I told him all about jnr. I had made a list of things so I wouldn't forget. He's prone to ear infections, has lots of wax in his ears, wakes crying and sounds very distressed sometimes - doesn't want a bottle and he failed his 9m hearing test. The consultant asked questions too....he asked if jnr snores which he does and this is because of the glue ear. Hope that helps. He's booked in for 2 weeks time....am trying not to think about my little man being knocked out and focus on the rewards. It should help his speech development and our sleep....

Hi shiny. Ughh not nice. Jnr can sleep for 6 hrs solid before the shenanigans begin at the mo. Every hour is defo tough

by **aurora** » Thu Jun 16, 2022 7:38 pm

thanks very much yada yada. must ask the gp when i'm next in. ds does have very waxy ears - snores sometimes but not always. always disliked lying down, put him in cot for months trying to get him to nap there during the day but he'd only sleep a half hour and had to put him back in buggy for naps. can sleep for two hours semi reclined in the buggy. he passed his hearing tests but on the first one he looked to the opposite side a couple of times but mostly fine. he's not saying much but he does seem to understand lots. might be worth me checking into anyways. :thnk

PaniniRoses · by **PaniniRoses** » Fri Jun 17, 2022 8:06 pm

Hi girls, how's everyone doing? Hope you're all getting some sleep.

Yada yada, great news that you may have a solution to your little man's ear problems - my niece had to have grommits quite young and her hearing and speech improved drastically in no time, it was incredible. Hopefully it helps with the sleep too. Great to know about the symptoms - DD has some of them, but not consistently.

Shiny, fair play to you being able to stay upright with two non-sleepers! I hope you manage to get at least one night of rest soon.

Aurora, have you left your DS in his own room? It's so hard when they wake for long stretches like that. How's he doing during the day?

Since the last one, DD had a few nights (2 more I think) where she's slept through...all the nights DH was due to get up to her of course! I think they have a pact. ;o(

It's been fairly rough this week though - DH and I have both been swamped with work so we're both like zombies anyway, and DD is teething horribly so she's waking every hour for about the last 5/6days. Most of the time she settles herself in a few mins but I seem to wake for every one of them. One night I finally got to bed at 2 and she moaned or cried every 15mins til 4.30, then woke shortly after 6 :zzzz:

She's so tired though, god love her, I think it must be from the pain - she wakes yawning and rubbing her eyes and even after having 1.5hrs nap in the creche today (which is unheard of) she fell asleep again in my arms when she got home and had another 30mins, then was up for an hour and back to bed for the night just after 7 :eek

She's woken twice since she went to bed though, I can hear poor Sophie the Giraffe getting an awful battering up there!

I swear, this whole sleep thing is DH's fault...when DD started sleeping well at 6 weeks I told him to stop gloating, but he couldn't resist, and we've been paying for it since :o0

by **hross** » Fri Jun 17, 2022 9:53 pm

God girls, I really feel for you all and you have my sympathies!!!
My story is a little different in that our DS was 16 months when he came to live with us ( he is our adopted son), but he was living with foster parents ( who were brilliant by the way) but his sleep pattern was all over the shop. We know that initially it was because of his change of circumstances and we were happy to put up with it,but omg it took almost a year to get him sleeping through the night.
First off we knew that the FP were giving him juice every time he woke up as he was sharing a room with an older foster child so thye didn't want him waking the other child up as he had to go to school the next day. So we cut out the juice at night initally but it didn't seem to make a difference and we had months of night of being woken every hour on the hour, it got so bad some nights that one of us used to sleep on the floor of his bedroom!!! We really resisted bringing him in to bed with us and that really paid off!!
Instead of giving him juice we introduced a bottle of milk and we did the whole let him cry it out!! We also let him put himself to sleep by leaving the room before he dropped off and then didn't go up to him when he woke again.
We also put CD's on his room and that helped a little.
But there is light at the tunnel girls,,when he hit about 3 he suddenly starting sleeping through the night and apart from the nights when he is ill we get a good 8 hours!!!
Good luck to all xx

by **aurora** » Sat Jun 18, 2022 7:03 am

Hi PR, God thats very broken sleep you must be exhausted. your poor little dd, she seems to suffer so with the teething. Yeah still have my fella in his own room. he's stopped staying awake for such long stretches the past few nights - still wakes but I was able to shush him on the monitor twice the night before last and he went back asleep. tried but couldn't break the 4.30/5 feed - he just won't go back asleep - sometimes doesn't anyway.
thats great that you eventually got back your sleep hross! heres hoping the rest of us get the same result, but please God it might be a little earlier than 3 yrs of age.

by **yada yada** » Sun Jun 19, 2022 10:03 am

PR - just so you know glue ear comes and goes. Jnr is grand at the mo and sleeping ok but when he has it we are all over the shop. Last night he slept 8-5am straight through without a peep. Go Jnr. I spent 45 futile mins at 5am trying to get him back to sleep but no joy. I had bought extra blackout blinds this week (room is now pitch black) to see if that would help.....err no but sure worth a try.

I'm also reading the no cry sleep solution for toddlers. It's very interesting but I haven't learnt anything new yet but only on p40. It has a nice approach and not heavy or condescending.

Hross - good woman on winning the sleep battle!

by **aurora** » Sun Jun 19, 2022 11:59 am

I met a girl I used work with yesterday and she had a similar time as hross. baby never slept through the night until he hit two and a half. she said they tried everything under the sun to no avail. said just one night it was a switch was flicked and from then on he slept every night.
Out of 5 babies at the mum and baby group the other day, two were really good sleepers, my ds was in the middle and then the other two were worse waking almost hourly at times.
I have that book in my basket on amazon yada yada but not sure whether or not to buy it - will see if you learn anything new by the end maybe. I have the no cry sleep solution and the no cry nap solution and they haven't helped a huge amount bar giving me a few things to give a try. thats fab that your ds slept from 8-5am, you must feel great!

PaniniRoses · by **PaniniRoses** » Sun Jun 19, 2022 8:51 pm

Girls, you've probably all see this by now, but I could read it myself today... http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bI6RrDveqm8

(Hope no-one takes offence! :-8

)

by **delgirl** » Mon Jun 20, 2022 8:33 am

PR - that youtube clip is priceless - I know at the moment I feel like this quite a bit. I have just sent the link to my husband as I know it will give him a giggle as it is so true.

by **newbaby2010** » Thu Jun 23, 2022 8:30 am

Unfortunately that youtube link doesnt work anymore.
Delgirl, why are you on this forum?!I thought your LO was ok at sleeping? Hope the baby led weaning is going well for you too, I feel like a stalker now!!
My LO is feeling for her first tooth with her tongue all the time now, she looks like a 'wee daftie' as my DH would say, with her tongue hanging out all the time! Im quite sure she wouldnt ever sleep long in her own cot either, I have long given up and co sleep with her, feeding her lying down about 3/4 times each night. Have raging tonsilitis at the mo though and a fever so its a bit hard at mo.

by **delgirl** » Thu Jun 23, 2022 8:39 am

newbaby - DD is getting better at sleeping - she has slept through three times in last three weeks which is a great. She has only slept through about 7 times she arriving. But she is in good form when not sleeping. I pop on just to read any ideas for helping her to sleep. And more for gearing myself up if she does not start to sleep through as I am back to work in a couple of weeks,

by **HappyMe** » Sat Jul 23, 2022 10:06 pm

Hi - I just wanted to share my story on the offchance that it might help. Saying that we had tried everything to get my DD to sleep until we eventually seem to have come up with something so i think they are all so different.
Basically my DD slept v v little from the day she was born. She has never napped during the day even as a newborn, takes hours of crying to fall asleep in the evening no matter what we tried and woke minimum twice a night, more usually 3/4 + times. At times myself and my DH were falling over with the tiredness, stress etc of it all - we both work fulltime which didn't help matters.
In the end two months ago DD climbed out of her cot and we had to move her to a bed. I decided that we would bascially start from the beginnning again in trying to get her into a routine. She was really way too young to move into a bed but she was throwing herself out of the cot so couldn't keep her in it. There is a bed in her room so basically, either me or DH went into that bed and put her in her bed when it was bedtime for her (great 8pm sleeps for us!) - this was to get her to relax enough to start to think about sleep as she seemed to get very worked up at sleep time. For the first week she got into the bed we were in- we had never let her into our bed but decided to cave in on this one. The second week she would get into her bed and sleep for a few hours then wake and got into the other bed with whichever one of us was there. Third week I started putting her back in her bed when she woke but I stayed sleeping in the room. I also gave her a beaker of milk to have in the bed with her and she started drinking that when she woke - she never had a bottle in bed with her before as I had tried to avoid any bad habits!!! anyway week 4 we put her in her bed and left the room, she roared crying but it was way less than any time before. She seemed to have learnt how to relax better after having us in the room with her. We then walked her back to her bed, settled her in and left the room again. I had about 4 nights where I had to go in and out countless times. Then night 5 she fell asleep in her bed straight off - I couldn't believe it. So far since she has fallen asleep every night no problem even shouting out 'night night mammy' when I leave - we are 3 weeks of success so far. Also she has actually slept through the night 2 ut of 3 nights - this is a first. Still trying to sort out the last few nights but this is so minor compared to where we were before.

Who is online