Support thread for sleep deprived with babies over 6 months

by **HappyMe** » Sat Jul 23, 2022 10:13 pm

WOL wouldn't let me add any more to my post - just to finish off, I'm not totally sure what has worked in the end but I would say the fact that we just totally changed everything about bedtime and sleep with DD started to change her views on going asleep. She also seemed to really understand that we were always there even if not in the room with her. We got new duvet covers that she loves and she has all her teddies in with her which all together seems to help. We don;t know ourselves now - the first few times we woke and realised she hadn;t woken all night was just amazing. Its not every night but I feel that will come now. She is also having a regular day time nap of about an hour during the day so it all seems to have slotted into place almost 2 years later!!!! anyway hoping that might give someone a couple of things to try.

by **yada yada** » Sun Jul 31, 2022 12:19 pm

Girls, I haven't been on in ages. Just wanted to say that the grommets made a huge difference in our house. Jnr now sttn most nights. Granted the scamp wakes at 5am but he does sleep solidly from 7.30pm so it's a huge improvement. My next project is to know the early rising on the head!

by **aurora** » Mon Aug 01, 2022 6:29 am

we're similar too yada yada, ds now sleeps from around 8.15pm to 5.30am most nights. wish we could knock the early waking on the head though, not feeling much more rested than when he woke more often but slept on till after 7. if you find anything that helps pleeeeeease let me know! we have the room blacked out, have stuffed animals in with him, tried different nap times etc but no joy.
has anyone had any success with 'wake to sleep' technique? i'm afraid to try it in case it has him up even earlier!

by **yada yada** » Mon Aug 01, 2022 7:35 pm

aurora - snap! I'm wary of that technique! We are using a gro-clock for the first time tonight so we'll see how that works out. I've set the sun to come up at 5.45am ......plan is to get him used to that and then push it back to around 6.30. It's a very long day getting up at 5 or 5.30 isn't it!!

by **aurora** » Mon Aug 01, 2022 7:44 pm

it certainly is, my mother can't believe me of all people being up that early - they couldn't drag me out of the bed at 8am when I was younger - I so love my sleep....
hope the gro clock works out for ye, fingers and toes crossed. don't think my ds would have any sort of clue about that but will try it in a few months if nothing changes.

by **sunshiny** » Fri Aug 05, 2022 11:05 am

Hi!

Can I join!?

Mammy of 2 kids. My little man only started sleeping better after the age of 2. Yes, you read that right. He was always up during the night and due to having asthma as well and lots of chest infections, it added to the issues. When I had my daughter, I "trained" her into a good sleep routine from birth and put her into her pjs and all that at 7pm with her brother and put her down upstairs at that time. She had been great, going straight to sleep for me every night at 7.30pm and not waking til the next morning. :eek

However, she was falling asleep on her bottle quite a lot and then I would put her in the cot. Then, lately she has been awake after getting her bottle and FREAKS out when I put her in the cot. So I have resorted to the 'ol 15 minute ignoring thing while she cries. And I do not respond to her during the night at all. It's working. Tough love and it's really difficult but I know it will work soon. Her crying during the night only lasts a few minutes and once she is quiet I go in and check her. It's taking AGES to get her to go to sleep at night but it's getting better with each passing night with this ignoring "routine"! :zzzz:

by **muchbetter** » Sun Aug 07, 2022 8:25 pm

My DS just started sleeping through the night! I don't know myself! He was waking almost every two hours untiI recently. don't know what worked exactly, but I increased his carbs slightly and I took him off the colief ( should have been done a while ago, I know, but I was so afraid of the days he had colic) As soon as I stopped the colief he stopped waking up hungry during the night. Could be a coincidence, as I increased carbs at the same time.
I have a new baby! :o)ll

by **newbaby2010** » Tue Aug 09, 2022 5:58 pm

muchbetter wrote:My DS just started sleeping through the night! I don't know myself! He was waking almost every two hours untiI recently. don't know what worked exactly, but I increased his carbs slightly and I took him off the colief ( should have been done a while ago, I know, but I was so afraid of the days he had colic) As soon as I stopped the colief he stopped waking up hungry during the night. Could be a coincidence, as I increased carbs at the same time.
I have a new baby!

Happy Days!!!!

fab2002 · by **fab2002** » Fri Aug 26, 2022 11:23 am

hi girls,we had a great routine going down at 7:30 and slept all night until recently
my wee man is 2 next month and for what seems like ages he has been wakening during the night for a bottle ive now got to the stage where i'm a walking zombie,so last night i thought i'd try some tough love and by god was that tough,he woke up and started roaring for mammy,but we left him a while,then daddy went in to reassure him that we where still here,again more roaring and crying,by this stage i'm in tears as i hate seeing him like this as he is a very happy and content wee fella,in the end i had 2 go in and cuddle him and kiss him he eventually fell asleep sobbing and my heart breaking

anyway he slept till 9 this morning which is great for him as he it can usually be anywhere from 6:30-8,but when i took him downstairs i noticed he had been sick i suppose with all his roaring and crying last night,now i feel even guiltier,

just wondering has anyone else used cc and should i continue now i've started or where do i go from here,i really need to get him off this during the night bottle as its just a habit and i'm a zombie,but i feel so guilty

by **Baby Babs** » Fri Aug 26, 2022 4:54 pm

I'm against CC because you never know what is going on in their heads and it goes against my instincts.

Can you replace the bottle with hugs, cuddling, a teddy? Bring him into bed if necessary. Whatever helps you to get the most sleep for everyone. Can DH help out? The habit of the bottle is probably a comfort thing

Bringing a child into will teach them there is a safe and secure place for them. He will learn to sleep through eventually.

i haven't posted here in a while. I can update you all, that DD is sleeping longer, stretches still in our bed and we don't exactly plan on moving her soon. She still wakes up to nurse but it is only once now usually and usually just as I go to bed, so often I get uninterrupted stretch. We just need to get a more consistent bedtime but I'm flexible so I'm not too bothered. The main problem is getting her to nap during the day. It's hit and miss so obviously it has a knock-on effect for bedtime. She is a happy sleeper and always goes back to sleep straight away.

fab2002 · by **fab2002** » Fri Aug 26, 2022 7:49 pm

Baby Babs wrote:I'm against CC because you never know what is going on in their heads and it goes against my instincts.

Can you replace the bottle with hugs, cuddling, a teddy? Bring him into bed if necessary. Whatever helps you to get the most sleep for everyone. Can DH help out? The habit of the bottle is probably a comfort thing

Bringing a child into will teach them there is a safe and secure place for them. He will learn to sleep through eventually.

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i ended up doing that in the end,going in and giving him a cuddle and kiss to reasure him i was still here and i sat on his beside locker until he fell back asleep so going to go with that again tonight as that was the most horribl feeling in the world broke my heart,so cc is definetly out i'm not strong enough person for that,as for taking him in beside us he ont sleep in our bed he thinks our bed is carry on time,and to be honest i'm quite glad of that as he is all feet and arms when he sleeps and i would more than likely end up on the floor lol,well fingers crossed all goes well 2nite and hopefully by the end of the wk the bottle will be gone and he will be back to his usual self and back to a great wee sleeper again,thanks babybabs for ur advise O-O

PaniniRoses · by **PaniniRoses** » Sat Aug 27, 2022 12:04 pm

Hi fab2002, that's great that sitting with him last night worked, I know I wouldn't be able for cc or cio either...and I'm not sure it's because you have to be strong to do it, just different techniques suit different babies and parents. DD's the same about being in our bed, so she has never slept in with us...some days (nights) I wish she would!

DD is still waking most nights, although I think for the last couple of months it's her teeth that are the problem and ear aches she gets with them, and sucking the bottle helps relieve the pain (along with a spoon of calpol!) She has had 2 nights in the last week where she slept through, so fingers crossed. We have changed her bottles so that she gets only water during the day, meaning she eats more, as much milk as she wants in the 2 hours before bed, and then water again if she wakes. Seems to be improving things, although there are days I wonder if I'll ever get a week of full nights sleep!

by **newbaby2010** » Mon Aug 29, 2022 10:15 am

Good morning Ladies.
May I join? :duh:

My LO is 8 months old and until one week ago was breastfeeding and co-sleeping and feeding all night.
We bought the no cry sleep techniqes book and put it into practice 7 nights ago.
I didnt hold out much hope!She was feeding every hour and a half up to 7 nights ago!
We moved her into her own room and my DH moved into it with her, with her in her cot and him on a campbed beside cot.
Progress has been supurb.We are now at the stage of her waking to be fed a bottle once a night and needing patted and shushed maybe another twice.She also needs her dodi. :duh:

Anyhow, we are far off excellence, but are delighted with ourselves.
Tonight the DH is moving back to the marital bedroom, and we havent had a night together without madam for 8 months!
We are anticipating much coming and going to her room for the forseeable future.We dont believe in crying it out or controlled crying and have seen great results without same. But each to their own.
Crazy Mammy on the bf forum had much the same problems too and we have been chatting on that forum mainly about sleep issues so I thought we had better move it here before we bored everyone over there to tears. :zzzz:

So hello!

fab2002 · by **fab2002** » Mon Aug 29, 2022 8:32 pm

well girls sat nite was a disaster,oh was away over nite so i had to go it alone and boy was it a long night,i heard him getting unsettled at 3:30 so went to the toilet before i went into him by the time i had came out he was standing at his door with his blankie in hand,so back to his bed trie sitting with him,rubbing his back and head anything other than going for a bottle as thats what i want to faze out but nothing,eventuallyafter an hour or trying to settle him i got in beside him and and we both must have fell asleep as i woke at 5:30 and went back to my own bed,and by 7:30 he was up for the day,
last night he woke a few times before i go tto my bed which i didnt mind and didnt mind giving him a bottle then as he hadnt ate much during the day,he slept soundly until 5:30 when i got a dunt from oh to say that he was calling me (as if he couldn't go himself,men!!!) so again i got in beside him he did ask for his bobo but i told him it was all gone and we slept till 8,
we will see what tonight may bring,he is so unpredictable,i think he is teething at the moment which probably doesnt help,but i am adament that during the night bobo is going so once thats gone hopefully everything else will fall into place
a mother's job certainly is 24/7

by **Crazy Mammy** » Mon Aug 29, 2022 8:55 pm

newbaby2010 wrote:Good morning Ladies.
May I join?
My LO is 8 months old and until one week ago was breastfeeding and co-sleeping and feeding all night.
We bought the no cry sleep techniqes book and put it into practice 7 nights ago.
I didnt hold out much hope!She was feeding every hour and a half up to 7 nights ago!
We moved her into her own room and my DH moved into it with her, with her in her cot and him on a campbed beside cot.
Progress has been supurb.We are now at the stage of her waking to be fed a bottle once a night and needing patted and shushed maybe another twice.She also needs her dodi.
Anyhow, we are far off excellence, but are delighted with ourselves.
Tonight the DH is moving back to the marital bedroom, and we havent had a night together without madam for 8 months!
We are anticipating much coming and going to her room for the forseeable future.We dont believe in crying it out or controlled crying and have seen great results without same. But each to their own.
Crazy Mammy on the bf forum had much the same problems too and we have been chatting on that forum mainly about sleep issues so I thought we had better move it here before we bored everyone over there to tears.
So hello!

Hi girls, just wanted to ditto can I join too. Mines a big saga so will post tomorrow cos going to bed now as LO will be prob be awake at 10.30 and every hour after that! Night Night x

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