I watched Kate and Williams wedding last year and was sitting watching the fashion commentry. Supposedly wearing white to a wedding is 'all in' at the moment and is not a fashion faux pas at all. I think it is lovely and have seen similar dresses at weddings. I would actually team it with bright blue/pink heals and that should detract from the 'weddingness' of it.

Also i think it is a bargain so happy days!

sarahstrikes wrote: If you are attention seeker then by all means wear that dress but I wouldn't.

Seriously? A silvery dress (not white or ivory) makes her an attention seeker if she wears it?

I am getting married it less then 3 months. I can hand on heart say I don't give a damn what my guests wear as long as its not a wedding dress. In my opinion any bride that gets upset over a non-weddingy looking dress hasn't got too much to be worrying about.

I don't think its a fashion faux pas thats the problem more like its insulting to the bride. To be fair its the one day in her life when she gets to wear her wedding dress and i think its a fair thing as a guest to choose a dress that doesn't overshadow. Its not the end of the world, wedding guest style dresses are everywhere, they're not too hard to find.

I know everyone is saying that it wouldn't be mistaken for a bride, but i was at a wedding before where a girl wore a cream dress albeit short dress and put black tights thinking it would take away from the wedding, but all the photos at the table, and the photos of waist upwards you would not know who was the bride. There were even pics on facebook of the bride and this girl together and people had to ask who was the bride. I'd say its a bit upsetting to a bride that people she invited to her wedding couldn't respect the dress code for one day....and you can't label me for being a bridezilla because i'm a man!

Jomcodoodle wrote:I don't think its a fashion faux pas thats the problem more like its insulting to the bride. To be fair its the one day in her life when she gets to wear her wedding dress and i think its a fair thing as a guest to choose a dress that doesn't overshadow. Its not the end of the world, wedding guest style dresses are everywhere, they're not too hard to find.

I know everyone is saying that it wouldn't be mistaken for a bride, but i was at a wedding before where a girl wore a cream dress albeit short dress and put black tights thinking it would take away from the wedding, but all the photos at the table, and the photos of waist upwards you would not know who was the bride. There were even pics on facebook of the bride and this girl together and people had to ask who was the bride. I'd say its a bit upsetting to a bride that people she invited to her wedding couldn't respect the dress code for one day....and you can't label me for being a bridezilla because i'm a man!

No, need you have labelled yourself already

But back to OP - its not cream or white. Its silver. I really can't see it overshadowing anyone especially if she accessorises it with a contrast colour. I dunno, maybe I am just too laid back but I couldn't see myself going all bridezilla on someone's ass for a dress like that.

For the love of GOD. Some people constantly really irritate me with backward views.

I would not find it "insulting" on our wedding day if someone turned up IN A PERFECTLY APPROPRIATE DEMURE SILVER DRESS.

UGH.


By the way, if there is any truth to that Facebook story (which I highly doubt) then an awful lot of people obviously can not read, because the photographs would be in an album labelled "X and Y's Wedding". With lots of pictures. And tags. You'd want to be very stupid to mistake a guest for a bride in fairness.

I wasn't aware that there was a specific dress code for weddings. I'll keep that in mind the next time I attend one and accidentally purchase an ivory or cream accessory. Heaven forbid anyone should have anything remotely light coloured on "The Bride's Big One Most Special Day In All Her Life" - cop on. Why not just go the whole hog and get a bouncer to stand at the Church door and turn anyone in light colours away.

I couldn't give a toss what people wear to my wedding. FFS some people have little to be worrying about....

candlequeen wrote:For the love of GOD. Some people constantly really irritate me with backward views.

I would not find it "insulting" on our wedding day if someone turned up IN A PERFECTLY APPROPRIATE DEMURE SILVER DRESS.

UGH.


By the way, if there is any truth to that Facebook story (which I highly doubt) then an awful lot of people obviously can not read, because the photographs would be in an album labelled "X and Y's Wedding". With lots of pictures. And tags. You'd want to be very stupid to mistake a guest for a bride in fairness.

I wasn't aware that there was a specific dress code for weddings. I'll keep that in mind the next time I attend one and accidentally purchase an ivory or cream accessory. Heaven forbid anyone should have anything remotely light coloured on "The Bride's Big One Most Special Day In All Her Life" - cop on. Why not just go the whole hog and get a bouncer to stand at the Church door and turn anyone in light colours away.

I couldn't give a toss what people wear to my wedding. FFS some people have little to be worrying about....

I you, I really do

candlequeen wrote:For the love of GOD. Some people constantly really irritate me with backward views.

I would not find it "insulting" on our wedding day if someone turned up IN A PERFECTLY APPROPRIATE DEMURE SILVER DRESS.

UGH.


By the way, if there is any truth to that Facebook story (which I highly doubt) then an awful lot of people obviously can not read, because the photographs would be in an album labelled "X and Y's Wedding". With lots of pictures. And tags. You'd want to be very stupid to mistake a guest for a bride in fairness.

I wasn't aware that there was a specific dress code for weddings. I'll keep that in mind the next time I attend one and accidentally purchase an ivory or cream accessory. Heaven forbid anyone should have anything remotely light coloured on "The Bride's Big One Most Special Day In All Her Life" - cop on. Why not just go the whole hog and get a bouncer to stand at the Church door and turn anyone in light colours away.

I couldn't give a toss what people wear to my wedding. FFS some people have little to be worrying about....

+1 i think the dress is lovely and would be perfectly acceptable at a wedding

I don't think it's a bridezilla issue, i think it's a respect issue. Silver or not it looks white from the photo and I think it's selfish of someone to wear it to someone elses day. Even if the bride is laid back some of the guests won't be and there will probably be whispers which, at the end of the day, shouldn't be about you but about the bride. Sorry this is just MY opinion but obviously there is a niggling doubt with this wollie also as to whether or not to wear this dress and my opinion is that she shouldn't.

And btw candlequeen I am not being backward, I'm just being honest.

CarolinaMoon wrote:

sarahstrikes wrote: If you are attention seeker then by all means wear that dress but I wouldn't.

Seriously? A silvery dress (not white or ivory) makes her an attention seeker if she wears it?

I am getting married it less then 3 months. I can hand on heart say I don't give a damn what my guests wear as long as its not a wedding dress. In my opinion any bride that gets upset over a non-weddingy looking dress hasn't got too much to be worrying about.

+1 on this... I dont think ill give a crap what people are wearing unless they ACTUALLY turn up in a BRIDAL GOWN.. ( now that would really get on my t*ts )

I don't think its about light colours. My wedding is in August in the afternoon so if I've people showing up in dark colours I'd think it a bit odd... as dark colours aren't really appropriate for a summer afternoon... in saying that I think as it is a sensitive issue for some that it shouldn't be a case of getting get up about it... I would just avoid white/ivory/cream outfits when going to a wedding...out of respect for the people that invited me!

And of course there's a dress code for weddings! Saying there isn't is naive as there certainly is! Would you wear a traffic light red mini dress to a wedding? Probably not? Or jeans and a T-shirt? Or a denim mini? Or an anorak? I'm guessing not as there is a dress code.

FutureMrsS wrote:And of course there's a dress code for weddings! Saying there isn't is naive as there certainly is! Would you wear a traffic light red mini dress to a wedding? Probably not? Or jeans and a T-shirt? Or a denim mini? Or an anorak? I'm guessing not as there is a dress code.

I meant the dress code comment as in, I am not going to send out little bits of paper along with my invitations stating "nobody should wear cream, ivory, white or silver. Nobody should wear royal blue because that's what my Bridesmaids are in. Please don't wear silver or pearl jewellery. Don't wear a silver wrap. Don't wear ivory or silver shoes. Don't wear anything garish that would detract from me. Don't wear any colour that would make you the centre of attention. Don't wear anything that could possibly mistake you for the Bride from the waist up because that would be very insulting. If you break any of these rules, be prepared for every guest there to think of you as an attention-seeking b!tch"

I personally wouldn't wear a red mini dress to a wedding because I don't wear mini dresses, but I certainly would not berate someone who did. I'd like to think I'd have a little more to focus on that day than what one guest is wearing. The only way I'd be remotely close to "insulted" would be if someone turned up in a full-length white gown. I'm getting married because I love my H2B and we want to have a fun, enjoyable day with our family and friends. If one of them would feel more comfortable in jeans and a shirt, then more power to them. It's not going to be judged by Tim Gunn at the end of the night as far as I'm aware.

And SarahStrikes, the word backward was not aimed at you, or anyone in particular, but at the notion that the OP was inconsiderate and attention-seeking for choosing a dress she likes and feels comfortable in. I completely understand that people have different opinions on this issue, I just felt that some had gone beyond that, as in going as far as to tell the OP that she would be the talk of the wedding because she had chosen a dress that could in no way be mistaken for a Bride.

And that's all I'm saying.

I don't see any problem with wearing this dress to a wedding.

I think this dress is fab and is perfectly acceptable to wear as a guest.


And as for wedding dress etiquette I couldn't care less if someone else turned up wearing a wedding dress to my wedding, it's what I'm there to celebrate that counts and what people want to wear to help celebrate my marriage is completely up to them. And its narrow minded and backward if people think wearing a completely non bridal dress to a wedding is disrespectful just because it's a light colour. Get a grip people and get over yourselves. In this day and age have you nothing more to be bi{ching about

*RANT*...many brides on this site put up posts about doing something different and in the whole, most brides reassure the person to go ahead, do something different no matter what people think....

THEN I look at this post and I see how narrow minded people are about Irish weddings. This is disappointing as people really want to break free from tradtional norms and faces so much opposition.

Good luck to anyone who wears silver to a wedding or does something remotely different to 'the norm'.

sarahstrikes wrote:I would never wear that to someone elses wedding. It's too light and I have talked to brides who have been very upset that people have worn dresses like that to their weddings. If you are attention seeker then by all means wear that dress but I wouldn't. There are plenty available that are not a that light in colour.

+1 - when there's so many gorgeous colours, prints, patterns etc. to choose from I would be steering well clear of white/cream/gold/silver..