who come first man or woman on address labels

missocd · by **missocd** » Tue May 08, 2022 8:37 pm

hi just wondering what is the etiquette in addressing envelope...is it Mr.John and Mrs. Mary Smith with the man's name first or is it the other way around ?

by **Rosyposy31** » Tue May 08, 2022 8:51 pm

Hey there, to the best of my knowledge the person you know best is always named first whether they're male or female, not sure what the exact etiquette is when you know them equally...I'd probably name the woman first personally?

candlequeen · by **candlequeen** » Tue May 08, 2022 8:55 pm

I can't say I've ever noticed to be honest - I'm after printing out 140 invitations with the H2B's name before mine, so all etiquette is gone out the window there!!

I wouldn't worry about it, go with what sounds better - I suppose Mr & Mrs John Smith, Mr John & Mrs Mary Smith, or Mrs Mary & Mr John Smith - actually the woman's name first looks a bit weird there....

by **Madame bijoux** » Tue May 08, 2022 9:17 pm

I'm not sure what the proper etiquette is but if the couple were married I put mr. & mrs. John smith on the envelope and john and mary on the invite. But if the couple weren't married I would put my friends name first & then partner ( if living together) i.e. Miss. Mary smith &mr.john murphy and Mary & John on the invite. if not living together I would just address it to the friend and put the friends name first on the invite I.e. Mary & John

Hope that makes sense!

missocd · by **missocd** » Tue May 08, 2022 10:01 pm

Thanks thats great O:o)

spaced2012 · by **spaced2012** » Tue May 08, 2022 10:50 pm

it all looked so wordy & formal to me that i just put "Mary & John Smith' on most, a few friends still have their maiden names but it would just get out of hand so I put female name 1st so the surname was more attached to the male name. if you get me!
a few oldies I put it a bit more Mr & Mrs John Smith.

by **lorrbridetobe12** » Wed May 09, 2022 9:46 am

My mam informed me the correct way is " mr & mrs John smith.

Ohnoshedidnt · by **Ohnoshedidnt** » Wed May 09, 2022 10:11 am

For most of mine i just addressed it to whomever i know best ie. Mary Smith then on the invite out Mary & John.
I think i left out mr & mrs altogether. Even the couples i put on envelope were just Mary & John Smith. A few older relatives i put Mrs M Smith.
You could put Mr & Mrs J Smith.
Oooooooooooooh this is getting confusing now!!!

excitedjuly12 · by **excitedjuly12** » Wed May 09, 2022 10:43 am

I put up a thread similar to this a few weeks ago but to be honest I was still lost as to addressing envelopes.

I think it should be Mr. & Mrs. John Smith for a married regardless of who you know better - am I right in saying that.......

For a couple who live together but not married, is it - Mr. John Smith & Ms. Mary Egan.............

highbeam · by **highbeam** » Wed May 09, 2022 10:58 am

Some people seem to get really annoyed if this isn't done right, we have had invites addresses all kinds of ways so don't worry if you don't get everyone exactly right. There doesnt seem to be one solution for everyone, I am going to do them like this

Married couple living together, same surname, with a house number - Mr & Mrs Smith

Married couple living together, same surname, no house number - Mr & Mrs John & Mary Smith

Married couple living together, different surname - Mr Smith & Mrs Kenny

Unmarried couple living together - Mr Smith & Ms Kenny

Unmarried couple not living together - addressed to which ever one we know better with John & Mary or Mary & John on the invite depending who we sent the invite to.

Is that everyone covered?

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